I know everything is about confidence
Faked confidence is useless .. You might give a good first impression, but you're going to fuck up as you usually do down the line simply cause you have no idea what the fuck you're doing wrong.
Apart from just getting holder these things made one hell of a difference
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First of all
Engage in girl .. Show interest in what she says and put some effort into her. The most important thing is to show her that you're interested in her because she is who she is .. and not cause you're lonely and want a random girl .. any girl tbh.
As an example from another post I just posted in. If she tells you she's just been in Australia then ask her about that and go back and forth. Don't change that subject by going something like "Nice, but what was your favorite trip?" Which dismisses all she just said.
If she is into something that you're not then explore it. Don't agree with her necessarily, but be large and accepting. If she is right wing then accept that you understand that lower taxes might be a good thing for some people, but it isn't your thing cause no universal health care ... Etc. If her political views are a deal breaker then fine, just end the date. If they're are not then disagree without calling her an idiot.
Anyways .. Show interest .. dig into it ... signal that you see her as a whole and respect her despite not necessarily agreeing. .. Don't live in your own head in other words.
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Secondly
Don't be needy .. Don't insist on her submitting to you on stuff being relationship focused and all sort of things like that. Just offer her your personality, fun and let it be up to her to partake or not.
Be aware of how she reacts .. If she is into you then pile on .. and if she starts to withdraw then give her space.
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But most importantly
Realize that the way to a relationship is thru a girls pants. If you can't turn her on then no matter how great you are you're not going to get anywhere.
Next thing to realize is that sex is not big deal .. As long as you're not demanding or needy you're are actually welcome to talk about sex, to escalate sexually and to initiate sex. What makes it or breaks it is whether you can take a rejection. If she is not into it or just says no thank you then you respect that ... keep on smiling and continue being good company.
Simple as that .. The thing is demanding a relationship before sex is heavy and asks for submissing, just having fun and sleeping together is casual. If you smother her with feels then you demand that she has to commit .. if you just get her casually naked then she is free to leave the next day but also free to come back.
Usually relationships are chemistry + fun -> sex -> repeat a few times -> relationship.
You want a relationship you gotta give her the opportunity to walk away at anytime leading up to it.
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TLDR:
Realizing that sex is no big deal and that you actually can be relaxed and open about it is the single thing that made me go from getting absolutely nowhere in my dating life to doing ok.
I realized it around my mid 20s. Not saying it makes dating easy, but you'll get success, you'll get laid and you're going to put yourself in situations, where relationships can blossom.
Being in a I'm looking for a relationship and not sex mindset is in my experience the culprit of an awful dating life