3. People who have BPD and are still nice, how do you do it?

People who have BPD and are still nice, how do you do it?

This is gonna make me sound like a bitch but whatever

I stopped being nice, and instead decided to be kind. I’m kind to retail workers, I don’t make a fuss. I tip well and order simple. I hold the door open for everyone. I let people in front of me in line if they look like they need it. I try to compliment everyone I see.

I have very few friends, but I care about them. So I ask about their lives and I listen.

I do not go around professing to care about every damn body, because frankly I don’t. I used to spend all my energy and time listening to the problems of others, oh I’m sorry you’re sad wanna talk? I’m always here to listen. Call me anytime. Literally my entire high school to 22 life was spent this way.

No. Full stop. I don’t care. I wish you the best, I’m sorry you’re going through it but I don’t know you therefore I don’t care. I barely barely care about myself. Do I say this? Of course not, that’s not kind. Just smile and offer a few words and end the conversation.

Be kind, treat people well. The reason you’re worried about seeming fake is because you are being fake.

Don’t make anyone’s life harder, but also protect your own energy and well being.

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