It took her a long time to learn how to "have" or be around those of us who do. Often awkward in social settings like a country club social, charity event, or speaking with others about money. She is a doctor of physical therapy, very successful in her own right. Because she grew up without the "trappings" that I am used to she sometimes gets offended or has a bit of resentment with many of my relatives and friends. I didn't understand that I was a "have" until 6th grade when we moved and I started private school. My dad got a better job and made it count. My old friends shunned me, my parents sat me down and explained it to me. I think she grew up like my "old friends" on the outside looking in, finding solace in trying to tear those of us "with" down or thinking we're all assholes. She has realized that the vast majority of "us" worked our asses off, found success, and deserve what comes with it. The people who made their money "the old fashioned way" (inheritance) are simply lucky to be related to the person who pulled their family line out of poverty. There are two cliques at my country club and I have yet to play golf with the "old money". Truth be told they suck. That's usually the story in America. I try to understand her point of view but I don't. To say it's just money isn't true, it's freedom, choices, time. But we do know that there are things money can't buy...like morals, manners, real class. There are no dummies in our room. We are smart, hard workers, my father was out the door before I woke up and home after dark, so we could all have more. He made sure I made my grades, practiced, understood what success demands of a person. The same things her parents taught her. We're much more alike than we are different, but every once in a while my trailer park princess will show her redneck. It's almost always hilarious.