But you know something? Guys can hide their bad traits for many YEARS. My friend was married for 20 years, gave up her whole youth (she was 18, he was 25 when they met) and the guy was treating her pretty well through the marriage but then started lieing through his teeth about his whereabouts. Turns out he was very into teen girls, incredibly, and was cheating on my friend with his best friend’s wife. You never really know someone. I’m 5 months in with my boyfriend. I don’t suspect anything will change on month 6 or 7. I’ve been with him almost every day. Not a once or twice a week date. I feel comfortable with my feelings about him and trust him as much as I could ever trust any man. We know they almost all lie badly. But he’s so transparent, doesn’t even lock his phone ever. Some men wear their heart on their sleeve and what you see is what you get. And while some things said here should be considered a bare minimum, they need to be said so that women understand they should expect that.

I see nothing wrong with those posts if there are no red flags. My partner doesn’t have any. I don’t need to wait 6 months to point out that good men exist. If there are any red flags believe me I am right here discussing it to help my sisters out. No one can know even after 5 months if someone will change or hasn’t been genuine. All we can do is live in the present and enjoy what we can.