The chores are split as evenly as possible and neither of us are slobs. We’re both income earners and money isn’t an issue. I think we all deal with stressors though, and both of our careers carry a great deal of stress that neither of us are great at “shutting off at 5pm” if you know what I mean.
Also, counseling is something we should have done a long time ago, and I regret not doing it. I understand the judgement, and in hindsight the steps seem obvious. At the time, I think I was just giving in to the affection I was receiving. When I realized that I had gone a long time without that kind of attention, it had a bit of an overwhelming effect on me that I chose (poorly) to give into.