You know that person that you don't talk to anymore, but still think about on a daily/weekly/monthly basis? What is stopping you from reaching out to them?

She's borderline.

For the sake of my kids, I wish we could be married and live together and go on family vacations. But we can't even exist in the same room, she explodes for no reason and with no provocation.

She initiated the divorce unilaterally, after I begged her to come to therapy with me for years. Her personality thrives on conflict and anger. I'd love to ask her how she's doing after the cancer, I'd love to help her choose a replacement car because I know her lease is almost up. I'd love to talk about the medical decisions we're going to have to make soon for our daughters. But if I send so much as a text message, she detonates.

It's taken me a long time to accept that I can't talk to the mother of my kids. It's taken a lot of re-learning that she cannot change, and going way out of your way in life to be nice to people won't fix them. I wish she and I could have a decent conversation, but she's just a shitty person.

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