Platonic friends of pornstars, what is the best, worst, and/or most awkward story from your friendship with him/her?

My first girlfriend was real trash. She was one of 4 kids. Each kid had a different father. She had poor grades in school. And in retrospect, her entire identity was pretty much based around her sexuality. Now, as an adult, I'm pretty certain she underwent some kind of sexual abuse as a kid - it's the best explanation I have for some of her behavior. I lost contact with her when I was 17.

She got in contact with me again when we were in our late 20's. She told me she ended up 3 states away in West Virginia and became a stripper. I spoke to her for a while, via email and AIM (because that was still used back then). It was kind of fun, because I got to have all these semi-screwed up fantasies about her, and because she was a stripper it seemed easier to simply objectify her. She initially seemed happy and well off enough to describe shopping binges and restaurants.

But it got sad. She had gotten into drugs, but I'm not sure what. She had a child. And she also endured abuse: apparently a group of bikers would show up once or twice a year and just occupy the bar. The girls pretty much had to give blow jobs, at the least, or get smacked around when they were there. I stayed in contact with her for a couple months, and it ended up being one of the most depressing periods of human interaction I ever had.

Finally I realized she wanted me to rescue her. That simply wasn't going to happen, so I just slowly made my emails shorter and terser, ignored her instant messages, and she went away. Sadly, I could have directed her to some help, or at least been more straightforward with her, but I didn't quite know how to deal with her at the time.

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