Please make an effort to make me feel better today, I need your support. I am socially anxious and depressed. I cannot get out of this vicious. I am scared and worried all the time. I don't have any confidence and I am always indecisive.

The reason for this situation might be overthinking, constantly questioning yourself and not believing in yourself. My first advice would be about you realizing some things about people. No one is thinking about your words, posture, body language, face and sentences as much as you do. They will not nit-pick every single mistake you make. No one remembers another person's mistakes as long as they aren't affecting their lives in a life changing way. You have to accept the fact that you make mistakes, that those mistakes are normal and that other people don't really care about them.

If you have a chance to say hi to someone, even slowly smile or wave at them, do it. No one will think "Oh, they said hi to me, what a stupid loser! " Even if they ignore you, even if their reaction isn't what you expected it to be, it will be okay because it is still a step forward. Stop being ashamed and embarrassed of your actions. Be proud of yourself for being brave enough to do it, it's their problem. Bring yourself up, even if it's because of pointless stuff. Never let yourself down. You wouldn't do that to someone else, so don't do it to yourself too.

Don't forget that the only thing you have to do to deserve love and respect is not hurting someone. As long as you breathe, you deserve to live.

Oh, and... You have a lack of communication. Communication is so so so important in solving social problems, and you never seem to explain yourself to someone. Hey, reaching out, suggesting something, opening up to someone is what we need to do! Please try to do them more, I'm sure it will help.

It's easy to write this all out but I understand how hard these things can be, since I know where you're coming from. Maybe I understood you wrong, but if any of my advices help you I will be really really happy. I wish the best for you.

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