Please help me understand [19/F]

Older redpiller here: still agree with everything, just have learned and seen most all of needed to see to achieve the success I want out of life to not need to visit here too often.

You see, I am not bitter or even upset about the pussypass or anything anymore. A majority of guys on here, more now then ever, since these ideals have gained traction and popularity (whether that be the negative or positive kind) are here and they are bitter and they are the loudest and angriest with the most questions.

So you will see a lot of that. This is the place they can go to understand and let go of so much confusion that guys these days have to face with life and women. Beliefs and ideas about relationships and dating have become very eclectic in the 21st century and not every son had a manly Dad that was around to show him the ropes, so it can be hard for guys to figure out how to act and behave around women.

Guys want sex and they pick up traces of a little bit of everything here and there to learn how to achieve sex. Be nice, be attractive, be an asshole, etc, etc they hear and see all these different examples of people in relationships and become frustrated that they can't get sex - then they also see that an attractive girl literally has to nothing much and can get all the sex she wants. It makes it worse because people make fun of guys that can not get sex. So you can see how men can become very frustrated and fed up with it all and lose a lot of self - esteem.

A lot of that vents out here. It is one of the only places to get solid advice and understanding with these issues. So you may see a lot of that anger and bitterness here.

But what happens to a percentage of them if they read, and apply, and work on themselves is they get better.

They start to understand that "Just be yourself" is not always great advice, because perhaps oneself is - simply put, pretty shitty at the moment.

Like you said "Be the best version of yourself" is more what gets passed around here. We show other men what the simple virtues of masculinity are where those things can be so hard to find these days. Men are emotional and passionate and romantic, we all are, no matter who argues otherwise - we are not dumb sex maniacs. But there is a certain way to convey these characteristics in a masculine way. Many men convey those characteristics in a feminine way and it ends up being a turn off to other straight women and they end up not attracting them as they had hoped.

Every man here is trying not to be bitter. It takes a while though.

This is a small little source of knowledge that breaks a lot of naivete young men can sometimes have. It can protect our emotions in the long run. We learn who to give our hearts to here and when we should keep our hearts to ourselves. You are right there are different types of women in the world, some bad women - these men absolutely fall in love with and they get hurt beyond belief. A mans love for a women can be very, very, great and very true and some times that gets taken advantage of. This place can help them to learn to protect themselves from that danger and know better who they want to actually give their heart out to one day, if they choose to do so.

This place also helps redefine for young men what masculinity means. What it means to "build character". Men are expected, like it or not, to carry heavy burdens sometimes. This place can help them prepare and be able to handle those heavy burdens, while remaining in control of themselves and come out of what ever challenges they have intact. And people will respect them more for it afterwards if they are able to hold through.

The list goes on and on. But after awhile here, and enough reading. You do stop being bitter, and you do realize not all women are bad, and you do realize you are a "man." and you can do great things if you apply yourself. You learn that sometimes women take advantage of men, and you learn that sometimes men can take advantage of women. You stop being so angry and learn to accept things, "it is what it is." .

All of this lends to a more confident, controlled, and attractive version of the man that reads here in time. Things become less of a surprise. Anger comes about when peoples expectations are violated. This place can show a man what to expect. These are stories of the world you see here. These things happen. Rather having expectations shattered and getting angry about it, one can have their own experience and think to themselves "Hey, this is situation is like something I read about on TRP." and instead of maybe getting angry, they just chuckle, shake their head and say godamnit redpill, and walk away thankful that they were prepared.

A lot of people are angry here. But they won't stay that way. If they try, they will become better versions of themselves, more so then they can imagine.

I set goals for myself 3 years ago, and I have dug myself out from a very, very low place. I have far exceeded those expectations of myself and made new ones. I owe a lot of my personal success to this subreddit teaching me how I can succeed and what mindset I should have.

It just takes time.

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