You are right- I was extreamly angry when I wrote that- he has had a hard life- well at least not a "normal" one. I asked his grandmother to care for him while I was in alcohol rehab- that was 7 years ago and I have been sober ever since. I became very alcoholic while trying to survive the relationship with his father, when I got away from him - I realized that I was in no condition to mother my son and I needed help. It was a situation where his family had basically moved me to the middle of nowhere, in a tiny town that they were 75% related to everyone and I had alienated my family in trying to make it work- so she was all I had at the time, in regards to support. While I was in rehab she had the court give her guardianship- I had no idea because I could not receive mail in the facility. They awarded based on my non- response. So when I went to collect him I was told she basically "owned him" her words- and I could take what she gave me. The Lawyers I have spoken with say I could have the guardianship removed, I asked him if that is what he wanted and he said he wants both of us- so here I sit, trying to be patient and kind to a lady that basically used my moment of weakness to get what she wanted. I have suggested therapy for all of us and she refuses, she threatens me if I do that, she wont let him see me again. I have suggested that he sees a psychologist, that he gets tested for Aspergers, which I think he may have- as well as his father and grandfather. She said she had him tested and it was negative...? She has gone as far as to remove him from all public school/activities, because teachers showed concern that something wasn't quite right, he has no friends outside of his church and they do not come over to the house. You have to understand- he loves her, but she is a little nutty- she was fully washing him up until another family member threatened to involve social services last year. I do love him, I don't want to forceably remove him from her, at this point we get along and I am not being forced to take this to court. I want to have good relations if I can - for his sake, mental health...etc. - if thats what he wants. I'm just out of my league with his behavioral issues/ social needs. I don't know what to do. I try to make his summers "normal" by having him ride bikes with his brother, jump on the trampoline, play video games, go on hikes, visit Zoos, Museums and Sixflags...but he disrupts an entire household for hours over not being able to game- it's like a comedown from a drug. I'm overwhelmed. I don't not like him- I hate his behavior, I am so frustrated and feel so much regret that I am lost in this- so I am asking for help.