Love isnt enough for a lasting relationship. Communication, teamwork,mutual respect, stability, etc all are needed. Sure, you can force it to work for a little while but eventually it will wear you down and you'll either stay and be miserable or you will leave.

You need to have a serious talk and ask him to change. Give him a timeline that's reasonable and stick too it. It is possible for people to change but it's not an easy road.

Also, think of this ,right now you dont have kids and doesnt sound like your married. Will he make a good father to a child if he doesn't work or help out? Will you ever be able to buy a house together without his help? What about if you get married and you get sick? If you lose your job? Will he step up and take care of you? Life throws us unexpected challanges and you want a partner in life ,not someone you have to carry. Who will carry you if you need it?