I've been a lurker here but might as well add to this. You kind of get forced to get better at foreplay. Hence my username something I feel I've gotten good at is cunnilingus. You get better at using your hands, caressing the body, talking smooth/dirty. You can just use lube but who has that all the time. I feel like having a BD is kind of a novelty. It's easier when you have a long term SO. My recent ex gf and past gfs and I were able to learn about each other and what works. When you're single you can get a lot of girls that rush in and burn out or stop early because it hurts or don't want too much foreplay because you aren't emotionally involved. You cant just go to town and rail em. Some can deal w it, but you still have to be careful because you can bottom out and hurt them. Every girl is different w different sex drives, some love it others get thrown off and can't handle it. I feel like it might have been damaging in my last relationship, but I'm not 100% sure, we haven't talked since the breakup. If you want that hip to hip grinding and being all the way in and close feeling you have to find good positions and let her lead. Also good luck with anal, I've yet to get past the tip before they say no or are too scared to try, so that sucks. When your younger and rumors spread it's cool to everyone and they joke about it w jealousy, but in reality it's a learning experience with just as many downsides.