Honestly, I think you are 100% wrong on this. And I think your view is prevalent amongst the trans community - the phobia of “fetishization”. We all are sexually attracted to fetishes. Some people like tall people. Some people like short people. Some people like darker skin. Some people like fairer skin. Some people like older partners. Some people like younger partners. Some people like blondes/brunettes/redheads. Some people like anal, some oral. Some missionary/doggy/cowgirl. We all have our sexual preferences, things that turn us on - fetishes. It doesn’t of itself stop us connecting with or loving our partners as three dimensional human beings.

The people who watch trans porn aren’t the enemies of the trans population. These are people who have accepted or are in the process of accepting trans people. [I’ve watched plenty of trans porn, and if I were single I would have no problem dating a trans girl].

The people who are the enemies of the trans population are the people who feel disgust at the very notion of trans people. Who think of it as an abomination. Who think to even look at a trans girl is to commit homosexuality.

Some people see past the genitalia to see the femininity of trans girls (and vice versa for trans men, I’m sure), which is a precursor to actually being able to contemplate having a relationship with them. Others cannot see them as female/feminine on account of their genitalia, and consequently will rebel against any attempt to classify them as women.

Y’all are fighting the wrong battle with this fetishization focus. Trans sexuality and pornography is a good thing for that group. It’s normalisation.