There is a family who is very dear to ours. We are converts and that family helped our family transition from being non-religious to being devoutly Catholic, teaching us many devotions and how to go to Mass properly and helping us find materials on learning what we needed to learn to catch up on what Catholics should believe and do in general.
Lately that family is having very difficult times. The root of the issue seems to stem from the mother who is doing everything completely wrong. She is especially dear to me as we have both had issues with sexual abuse as children. And she has been so kind and patient with me over the years.
But she's making terrible decisions. I know we should not judge people, but we're supposed to know what's right and wrong, and I can't help but notice that her actions are extremely and gravely damaging to her family.
She's starting to become schismatic, saying the only valid Mass is the Latin EF, and she only goes there.
She does not support her husband in any way, and he has stopped going to Mass or even leaving his bedroom except to go to work.
She home-schools her children, but she hasn't taught any of them in years. The oldest of those who haven't left home yet can't go to public school because she is almost a decade behind, but she's also incredibly lonely.
The mother is constantly running errands and helping a certain priest that she has a very unhealthy relationship with, and this keeps her from spending basically any time with her children.
She buys lots of soda (Mountain Dew, etc.) and candy and junk food all the time, and wastes lots of the family's money (including gas money to drive an hour away every day to help a priest who has others who can help him), even though they're below poverty level because her husband works in a factory. She gets upset at her older daughters who moved out and have jobs, because they spend their own hard-earned money supporting themselves instead of giving the money to her because they know she's wasting her husband's money.
Her children are suffering and often think about suicide, even the ones who have moved out.
She's a huge hypocrite in these ways, and every day I wish I could say it to her, in hopes that hearing it from someone outside her family might wake her up to know how detrimental and damaging her actions are, but I know it would fall on deaf ears. That said I don't have much room to speak, I'm about to go to prison in a few months for 2-6 years leaving my wife and 5 children to fend for themselves. That said, two wrongs don't make a right. What I did wrong lasted all of 3 seconds. What she's doing wrong, she's doing wrong every single day, every single hour.