This is super difficult. I caught one of my daughters looking at porn, she learned from a friend- I deaded that friendship, plus put all these locks on her tablet and computer. I also do random audits where I check both daughters history...if they are inappropriate they get their tablets removed for a short period but if the history is deleted, they get their tablets thrown in the trash. (I’ve never seen it deleted) I do random audits on roblox and their charting as well. But I think the most important thing I did was tell my daughter that women are abused and usually forced to do porn, it’s not healthy and doesn’t demonstrate healthy relationships. I told her that her dad and I don’t do that. I got this off the internet about speaking to kids about porn, because I was stressed tf out about this and it was a terrible time for me. I think it made the biggest change, though. Also I told her (my other daughter has a disability so she’s never looked but they both got spoken to about it, but more my daughter who was caught) it’s about her character and morals that allows me to decide what she gets. For example she was supposed to get a phone at ten but fuck that now.

• Anyway, outside of you telling their parents this, it’s hard to expect a change. My initial reaction was to spank her, but when I told her I didn’t trust her and that she was demonstrating low character my daughter was super crushed. I feel like it affected her more than a spanking would. For you, you can speak to your cousins when you see them but it’s hard because someone (brother) is abusing them. In this situation calling child services seems more appropriate. Or at least threatening the parents to do so unless all children attend therapy. It’s a tough decision and will impact everyone.