Sorry but I think you’re living in a bit of a fairytale. You seem to be looking for a cinderella story but that rarely happens. Most successful men these days are looking for equally successful women. If they are not, they’re looking for someone disposable and even if they marry you, they will have an ironclad prenup. Sure you might end up with more than you started, he’s not going to hand you enough money for you to lead a luxurious lifestyle after your divorce.
I also feel that you’re not looking at the cons carefully.
You’re 23. Unless you’re marrying an heir to an empire, it’s very likely that you’ll have to marry someone who is much older than you, and more than likely less attractive than men in their 20s.
Additionally, you talk about having a jet-set lifestyle. I feel you’re being misled by social media pictures of billionaires and kids of billionaires. Most successful ppl don’t have time for a jet set lifestyle. My husband and I individually earn enough to put us at top 1% of income earners. The longest vacations that we took were two 3 night vacations this year. Our new year’s eve vacation will be of the same length. He works 12 hours a day during the work week, and works about 6 hrs on weekends. He usually has a dinner engagement once a week so apart from sleeping together, the time we actually spend together awake is less than 24hrs/wk. Don’t get me wrong. We’re extremely happy with each other and love each other but you also need to be okay with being alone most of the time.
This will likely be the case even if you’re dating someone in their 20s. I once dated a hedge fund manager. Our friday night dates were at his office ordering chinese takeout because he was working.
If you’re okay with this then my suggestions are:
1) looks are important but not end all be all. Look classy not trashy. Look like you are a working professional not a porn star or sex worker. Look like someone he can take you to an office party where you will fit in not like he rented you for the night. Nails that are demure not some crazy colors. No overly heavy make up. Make sure your hair looks like you just came out of a salon. No clothing/jewelry that screams with logos.
Be able to have engaging conversations. That means keeping up with current affairs. Any successful man will have an investment portfolio. Have an understanding of how the market moves. Read more wsj less vogue/elle/marieclaire. He’s not interested in the latest fashion trend unless he works in the industry.
Be a better listener than a talker. You will need to be part time therapist when he calls you after work to rant about things that happened at work. Take an interest in what he does.
Have a fun side. Show him the fun side of life- whether it’s an outdoor activity, finding a restaurant you guys can try, a nice bar to go have a drink. He’s busy with work- he doesn’t have time to look for things like this.
Be prepared to stand up for yourself and to meet a lot of assholes. Trust me. These guys didn’t get to where they are being a nice person. All of them have an asshole side to them. You have to love their ruthlessness for what it is. At the same time, that means sometimes that side from work will spill into their private lives. They rarely get told no and will expect you to do the same. If you don’t agree, say no and explain why you don’t agree. I’m not saying be a bitch but it’s okay to be an asshole back. As my husband said, he wants someone who will walk equally next to him not follow him blindly.
Work on yourself to be successful at what you do. Successful men don’t want housewives. They want someone who will also elevate them. You can choose to be a housewife once you get married and have children but before that, you need to have a career.
All guys want to be nurtured and cared for.
So if you’re okay with this then your best bet is wall street (ibankers, ppl who work at hedge funds), charity functions, working/volunteering at a charitable organizations, lunch at restaurants/bars in financial districts, silicon valley, hole in the wall bars in affluent neighborhoods.