Hey bro,

I hear you about the barrier with the family, you should really sit them down and have a conversation about this stuff. This surgery was for you, only you in the end can make it work, and your family is going to have to understand things need to change because you want them to, you went so far as to get this risky surgery.

Your family should understand, if your wife isn't being supportive then you need to have a conversation with her stat and if that doesn't go well, get some type of counseling for both of you. Communication is super important.

Attempting to get healthy was the final nail in my marriage a few years ago. I had to realize in the end that getting healthy was more important to me, and I'd rather been on my own than having someone with nothing but contempt for me around.

You just got look at these feelings of regret bro and tell them to fuck off. Its going to suck for a while, but each day you make it through it you are a stronger person, and down the road your going to be thanking your self for doing something now rather than later.

Remember you already are a bad ass for going through this surger, I know a lot that talk about it but won't do it because they are scared.

Hang in there, it'll get better each day.