Posted a few days ago about my girlfriend and feeling offended by the way she talks about gay culture sometimes. She's been lying to everyone in her life about my identity, they think I am a man named Michael. We've known each other for 3 years.

I understand entirely what you're saying. Before I found out about all this she told me her parents didn't know about us and I was completely ok with that, because as I said to her "being gay is weird". I'd literally never make anyone come out of the closet or let it impact our relationship.

However, she IS out of the closet. She came out awhile ago. The only lie is who I am. She told that original lie years ago and just kept it up even though everyone knows she dates both men and women. They even knew at the time, she just still felt weird going on a date with a woman.

Maybe you're right about my gut trying to tell me something. Maybe I am having trust issues due to other things? But I don't think it's entirely unreasonable for me to feel offended she's telling people I'm a man named Michael. Or maybe it is. I genuinely have no idea because I'm feeling so emotional over it all.

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