Pre-martial sex question

I think people need to consider the bigger picture a bit. Is it better to turn someone away from Orthodoxy and condemn them forever, or to yikes commit probably the most common sin? All this focus on sex in religions is mostly anthropological anyway (we havr to reproduce fast so no homosexuality, no premarital sex to reduce the number of partners as a way to curb STDs, etc), or more recently stemming from the braindead protestant puritanism (see the US, where liking a pornographic tweet is a grave sin, but effectively stealing trillions and killing many people as a direct consequence of that is rewarded).

As for OP, a strategy that always works is to "put God first". He knows you can't take it, and if anything this challenge only benefits you ("no pain no gain"), so try asking Him for help, as well as other people for prayers and advice. I find that most of the time He surprises us with a solution you didn't even consider. IANAP, but for you I guess it's either helping you get married, or getting out of the relationship altogether if it's not the right thing for you (you don't want to spend your whole life low key hating your existence).

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