Pretty boy

So I get called 'pretty' from time to time. This used to bother me when I was early in my transition(and pre transition obvi) because it felt a bit like people were saying I was 'feminine looking' and was being clocked. it made me uncomfortable because that's not something I was really going for and as far as gender expression goes I'm quite masculine. But now I see it has little to do with me being trans, which was my concern before. My brother is cis and we have similar features and he has also been called a pretty man. We both have more delicate features, nice teeth, youthful appearance. And plenty of other trans men I have known have never been described as pretty. Now I kind of embrace it, actually. I'm a man who is also handsome and kind of pretty. It's a lot easier now because I'm also stealth, so I know when people say that they're not misgendering me in any way. But I can understand why you might not want people using this word for you if it doesn't resonate with you in any way or makes you feel dysphoric. Plenty of cis men don't want to be described as pretty so you're not alone.

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