There are some issues to be sure. Things are better these days but the old ways of colonialism are very ingrained in Malaysian society. Like most places the more urban and educated areas will be more forward thinking.

But sadly throughout our history lighter skin is seen as much better (smarter, prettier, more desirable). You still see dangerous bleaching treatments and most make-up for women are to make your skin lighter. I even hear my nieces who are Iban-Chinese mix, and fairly light, complain that their skin is "black" (light tan by American standard) and say how ugly it is. I try to tell them it's perfect but their peers at school also repeat that myth. It drives me nuts.

I've also heard some racist stuff and seen people shy away from anyone fo African heritage on the streets. We have some students from various African countries in my town and they say it's hard to make friends. They seem surprised when I reach out to them or talk with them.

But realize people here are not generally aggressive about racism like a redneck from the American south. People are not in your face, it's a passive racism. They may shy away/steer clear until they get to know you. If it was a white person they wouldn't do that. It can be overcome though. ( I realize how sad that is)

The older generation also uses the term "Negro", but it's a term they view as not being offensive and not said with malace. It's the same to them as calling someone Chinese, Malay, White, Indian, etc. A descriptor they were taught. I am constantly correcting my father and uncles, saying that word is no longer proper but they still let it slip occasionally. I never hear the other "N" word from the older generation. Rap is popular so you occasionally hear it from younger people when mimicking the songs, but not in an aggressive manner.

Dating/Family life I can't tell you about. If you are decent looking, nice to talk with, and a hard worker I'm sure you can find someone. You will have a harder time than a lighter skin guy because parents sadly all want the lightest skin grandchild as possible for the outdated reasons I mentioned above.

I welcome you and wish you the best of luck and a happy life.