According to terpers' definition of an alpha- I had a ONS a while back with an alpha.
It was ok. I did it again with him and... It was okay. I guess that would make it a TNS.
My husband is way more attractive than him, like, it's not even close. To me.
However, terpers would think that the alpha was way more attractive (by Terper standards) than my husband, like, not even close.
There wasn't anything to "get over" with the alpha. Having a ONS didn't impact my relationships with others. Why would it? We had sex twice. Thinking about "moving on" and "being happier with someone else" just doesn't apply. There was no happiness or lack of happiness of which to speak of. There wasn't anything that necessitated moving on from.
I have no idea if he's married or not, or some old creepy dude trying to relive his glory days trying to have sex with women half his age and bitterly thinking all those happily married couples are just divorce rapes waiting to happen to poor beta schmucks. Never mind that they're happy with their kids/grand kids and have been together for decades.
I'd like to think he's happily married since he was nice enough. He was probably a player, not necessarily a bitter, entitled, misogynist.
My husband and I are doing fine. There's nothing comparable to having a partner you love to go through life with.
The reason that the concept of alpha widowhood is laughed at so much, in addition to how ridiculously absurd it is, is because it's such an obvious Terper revenge fantasy. They love the idea of Chad (they love Chad period) leaving a trail of women mourning the great sex they had in his wake. unable to move on, commit and find happiness in life. All because he had sex with them.
In reality, no one remembers Chad. He's a nameless guy that you barely remember and can't hold a candle to your current flame. Chances are, Chad's past conquests will be happily married and have loving fulfilling relationships if they married later in life, are educated, have a decent income, and an egalitarian marriage. They don't even remember Chad's name let alone how good or bad he was in bed.
Sex is only sex. It's ok. Lots of things are ok. Not all of them are memorable or worth thinking about.
Sex+ love with someone you trust that knows your body and you know theirs is absolutely fantastic.
How is some random Chad dude going to compete with that?
He can't.
Alpha widowhood is one of the more ridiculous concepts that terperland has come up with. But the obvious appeal is the revenge fantasy (making women incapable of love by having sex with them, stupid women that wouldn't have sex with them! That'll teach 'em!) the power fantasy (Terper obsession of how Chad looks and acts), and the penis fantasy (a penis so powerful it removes the capability if women to live and commit.)
Terpers are in love with Chad. Women aren't.