I love my mother-in-law. She is a tough personality, can be really embarrassing, and I can’t count on her for shit, but other than that we get along great. I know that sounds weird, but I really don’t have a problem with her. She respects boundaries, and she isn’t really demanding or overbearing. I don’t need people to be perfect. I just need them to not be hateful, antagonistic, or entitled.

My own mother, on the other hand, is a monster. She is selfish, self centered, manipulative, verbally and physically abusive, and deceitful. She doesn’t believe that she is any of those things. In her mind, she is entitled to do and say whatever she wants, but you better watch what you do and say to her or there will be hell to pay. She’s big, and I’m little. She’s smart, and I’m dumb. She’s right, and I’m wrong. She has all the rights, and I have none. That’s why I don’t get along with my mother. It has nothing to do with a conflict of roles or personality. She is just a terrible person.