The GC person can be any sort of personality. You can have a GC that's basically a very kind person, a GC that (even if they hadn't been in a N-household) is an asshole, and you can have regular people in between that have a mix of traits and got caught in the madness.

Some GCs contribute to a SG's torment significantly, which understandably makes some SGs here angry. Other GCs don't.

You sort of have to compartmentalize stuff.

Like, I'm pretty straight-forward that my schizophrenic relatives are what exposed me to my N-situation later in life. And it wasn't fun living with someone that has schizophrenia.

At the same time, while* I* need to vent as a survivor of that, it's not the same as me advocating to burden folks with schizophrenia with more abuse. Because people who have that mental illness are often already mistreated by the general public.

So when it comes to the situation, there's two groups of people who need help who have slightly different experiences/goals...the actually schizophrenic person, they need help living with the illness, and help getting meds/treatment, but also the family members that live with them and have had THEIR lives altered by the disease. They also need help healing their wounds.

So, to go back to ACoNs...we get a lot of SGs here, some that are hurt by siblings in the GC role. But that doesn't mean that GCs shouldn't/can't get help here themselves, or should stay away.

Maybe it just means that GCs/SGs here should try to be careful around each other, because not all GCs actively participate in sibling torment, or if they used to under pressure of Ns, a GC being here usually means they want to help themselves heal too, which is all we really want. For people to heal, and torment to end.