I am Catholic, and the only reason I felt guilty after the first time I had sex is because the guy was a total two-faced bitch. We were friends for months before we started our whatever-it-was, he was manipulative and an asshole, and I thought that I could be the one to change him. I thought I wanted to share my first time with this guy, up until it started happening. I changed my mind, but couldnt muster the courage to say so, only for him to jackhammer away for a few minutes despite my obvious pain, and then coldly tell me to put my clothes back on. Almost immediately after that, he acted like nothing at all had ever passed between us, like we werent even friends, and he definitely never touched me or used me for sex. We were never even in a relationship, according to him! Sorry, getting off topic...

The point of this rant is 1) i was a naive little idiot when i first started college, and 2) sex really is a big part of a relationship. It has a wide variety of meaning and importance to everyone, and I will always regret that my first time, which I had previously wanted to save for my true love, was utterly meaningless to the dirtbag who took it from me.

I have a wonderful boyfriend now, and we started having sex right away. He was kind and gentle, and he checked up on me constantly the first time, which was onky my second time ever. Our relationship is not only about sex, and we actively make time ro talk to each other and do things outside the bedroom.

You have a good head on your shoulders, it seems. I could have avoided so many problems had i been exposed to proper sex education. Keep your limits strong and be smart about what you want. If you decide to wait, thats perfectly okay. Dont make your relationship all about sex, and you will be fine. Sex is about as intimate as you can be with a person, so just keep that in mind. Waiting until marriage is admirable, but if you can handle this intimacy and its possible consequences in the future, you shouldnt have to feel guilty about wanting to have sex.