The fact is a 14 year-old is not a man & does not know what is best for themselves, let alone alone one with intellectually disabilities. But he thinks he does. He's barely started puberty. He will want certain freedoms that he simply will not be able to have with his condition. He will use comparisons of "aw but my friends get to do X" or "aw but dad lets me do X" to make you feel guilty but ultimately you know what is best for him regardless of what he or anyone on this sub may think.

This may be "ask men" but from my experience here this sub is filled by probably more teens & women than actual men. You've asked for advise from men who have raised boys - you're getting replies from teens who want you to give your kid all the space in the world because that's what they want, and people who clearly have zero experience with a disabled child. You know his condition best. The start of puberty is not the start of manhood. It's the beginning of a process. Do not feel pressured to suddenly change how you treat him - he is still a kid. Barely a teen. Stop taking advice from strangers from the internet, and keep doing what feels natural. I'm sure you're doing fine :)