Late commenting but I wanted to say it sounds like you’re being a great partner and I’m sure you guys have got what it takes.

They say in recovery culture that the addiction isn’t the problem it’s the solution. The problems mostly are relational. Especially for porn users.

So you’re being gracious, considerate and creative in your relationship and you’re not avoiding. That removes a lot of the relational stressors between you two at least. So that even though you don’t have a magic wand, it frees him up to keep doing the hard work, which is awesome.

It seems like a fight for everyone effected with lots of ups and downs. Just a thought you might consider dropping in on an S-ANON group in your area.

Thanks for the post!