[Question] My SO m(22) can't go two days without sex.

I've went through a similar thing with my girlfriend. In our case, we originally had met with the expectations of staying fuck buddies or whatever term you want to use, but we didn't want an actual relationship. Fairly quickly it became more. We dated for a year and the norm was for her to jump on me as soon as I came in, and have sex before we did anything. Every day we were together we had sex a couple times per day.

After a year or so, it slowed down a lot. She takes various medications that lower her sex drive, but despite that, it bothered me a ton. For me I'm a very physical person. Once it has been established, I need that sexual aspect to feel connected. It's not just an issue of "I want to get laid," to me it's something that makes me feel loved, desired, attractive, and cared about. You could tell me all you want that you're into me, that you haven't lost any interest in me, and so on, but it's extremely difficult for me to have those negative feelings without a regular sexual part of the relationship.

Our solution has basically come down to me accepting that it doesn't mean she's not into me, and trying not to get upset whenever we go a couple days without sex. For her part, she makes an effort to have sex, or do sexual things with me on a regular basis, even if it's something that is planned in advance, or I'll ask her to have sex with me today, or tomorrow, and she'll decide when she's up for doing it. I don't know if that sounds shitty to people here, but it works for us. Usually we find is that even though she won't necessarily be in the mood when we start, she'll end up getting into it.

Being unhappy with a lack of sex is extremely difficult, and pretty much a relationship killer in my opinion if some sort of compromise isn't made that both halves can feel happy about.

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