Mind: A bit nervous at first, but when I'm around the guy, I can't stop thinking about him. Before we get to know each other, it's usually things about his body, or his smile. Usually I feel a very strong urge to make this person feel good, for example I'll really want to run my hands over his skin, kiss his neck and shoulders, feel the bulge of his arms and shoulders, etc. I daydream about long days spent in bed. If he takes his shirt off nonchalantly, my response is a gulp and an "Oh fuuuck that's nice," kind of an immediate wake up call throughout my body. Actually seeing parts of him will increase that urge to touch or bite or etc. It's not until I know him personally that I think, "Oh this guy is so cool." I feel excited to get a chance to see him, and have to remind myself not to appear overly eager, which is easy for me.

Body: I feel a lot more aware of my body around him, not just because of a little self-consciousness hoping he likes me, but also because I want to appear sexy. So overall my whole body feels more electrified and alert to any sound, smell, touch, etc., because I'm hoping they're from him. It's a vastly different feeling than sitting at home in your pajamas. If I see him and am feeling attracted, I will feel a surge of excitement, and the best word to describe it is want. There's this sudden and continuously growing need to get up, move, act, do something to him and with him. It's not a mental thought; it's like when you get tired and your body send the message, "we need to sit down now." Well this one is, "we need to get laid now! Touch him, grab him, kiss him, jump him now!" As for the physical manifestations of that urge, those are well-documented. My skin will get warmer; if I'm really turned on my cheeks may turn pink. Between my legs will start to feel hot and clench, throb, and ache to be touched. If it continues, my pussy will start feeling "empty" and like it needs to be filled, and I'll get wet. I feel more sensitive all over my body, and more reactive to any stimuli. Eventually there is the urge to bounce my hips but that's in cases where I'm very horny. There's also the physical urge to be rough, like grab his sides tightly, bite his shoulder, just to feel his body in a physical way.

It should be noted I have spontaneous libido, and so do a lot of the women here, which is apparently not as common as responsive desire in the general women population. I don't know how they differ other than the starting mechanism, so hopefully you''ll get perspectives from them too. Just an fyi that bias for spontaneous desire here will likely skew your results, and so you shouldn't take this as a great representation of women's sexuality because a lot of us are wired differently than the "average woman."

Also does anyone know the stats on that? Is the split between spontaneous desire and responsive desire in women at 70/30? 80/20? I would take a guess that because it's such an overwhelmingly portrayed scenario in media and discussed so much online by first hand experiencers, that it's definitely not a 50/50 split between the types.