Here’s my perspective- hopefully not hijacking OPs post. I don’t want to tell the bishop and the stake president “hey, I can’t poop probably as the result of a surgery i had.” It’s just too personal. And honestly, for me, I know coffee is against the rules. I am choosing coffee (and finally feeling relief after 3 long years, medications, supplements, doctors, tests) and therefore, when asked to come in for my TR interview I said no. I’m also not going to get a doctors note. I’m not a kid looking to skip gym class. I’m an adult. I’ve made a decision. I’m not thrilled with the consequence but right now it is what it is. My disappointment is, I guess, that we talk a lot in (for me) RS and SS about how there’s no “checklist” and so much is between us and god. Until the TR interview. Then there is a checklist. And then I feel like I have to share way too much with ppl about stuff that should be between me and the lord.

I don’t mean this to sound petulant. Like I said, I’m disappointed. But this is the best I can do for myself right now.