I'm well aware, gaming for 12 years, the group has been together for 25ish, were not new to this. Generally were all fairly logical and extrapolate opinions from the rules.

2ndly, its about fun, everyone having fun, and thats generally how we rule it, what the most people find fun, we never tended to rock the "my games my rules" mentality, because its not about ownership, its about everyone taking time aside to have fun, and if people aren't having fun then there is an issue.

lately tho, for reasons I won't go too far into, the DM has been getting entrenched into what ever opinion, and his house rules have become inconsistent. this game had 2 heated conversations, and so did last week. all with different players.

normally when its my turn to DM, I DM very close to rules as written, and if I want to make any homebrew changes, I write those rules down, so they become "RAW" everyone at the table has to agree on them because its about fun.