This is not bashing men overall, but men when it comes to their union with women. I can say a lot of great things about men of our world whom were and are profoundly gifted in the arts, music, philosophy, spiritualism, etc. One of my greatest teachers presently is male and an ascetic and I can't even express how grateful I am for someone like that.

The union of men and women I feel is very flawed. I think beyond all the superficial stuff, there is a real problem there, and those problems can and should no longer be excused. I believe that a call for change is very much here. I come from a practice where one is taught and encouraged to rise above this idea that things are within our own nature. We don't allow ourselves to succumb to a nature that has created a lot of world problems. This "nature thinking" has become a habit, where what we feel is our nature becomes a justification for being a certain way, making it ok, even if it harms us and the people around us. I see such great men and women following a practice of wholesomeness and being so supportive, living so peacefully, just completely transformed. Knowing this, seeing this, experiencing this, I find it hard to be convinced that people cannot change for the better, that they cannot rise above their own nature. That's where the reasoning behind an inability to change becomes bullshit to me. And we hear this bullshit a lot from men in regard to their union with women. But isn't it unfair to say that only men should change? Sure, if the woman sincerely needs change. But what about the hard working wife and mother who transformed, body and mind, becoming sacrificial for the care of others?

When men do some of the work and women do all of the work, who should change? The woman or the man? Should the woman be just as limited in her capabilities as the man? If she were, would the man rise to the occasion and take on the responsibilities not being fulfilled? No. Everything falls apart without the woman, but it never falls apart without the man.

And I wonder, is it always the same story with women? No, it isn't. But, it's always the same story with men. Women have elevated themselves to the point where the mother and wife can be seen as superhuman sometimes, "she's phenomenal, how does she do it all?". All the while men have remained the same and even worsened. Yes, there are good and wholesome men out there, but the fact is, it's a very small population of men. Even when men take on a practice of wholesomeness, they're actually not quite there yet, it's a very VERY small population. And there is a whole movement of unwholesome men, who aren't getting what they want out of women, and I have heard these men and their talk. They're resolution is aggression and violence. Or to ignore women, give them up, go their own way, which I think is wonderful, but even when they are supposedly "going their own way", they are still talking about women. As real change is very much needed.