RANT: Dating as a woman is NOT easier. Finding love as a woman is NOT easier. Finding sex is. It's not the same. We are just as lonely.

Ok, hear me out. I feel like somehow you’re choosing wrong men. They have sketchy scenarios, they live way too far away, they have red flags, or you’re possibly attracted to a toxic trait (maybe stemming from family history or previous relationship). I also feel like some women will still engage and give people a chance to be understanding, despite seeing these flags. Maybe try dating someone you normally wouldn’t think you’d match with or who doesn’t come off as so charming and sweeps you off your feet so quickly. And also doesn’t have “I’m a total asshat jerk” flags. Some good looking, charming guys are just that and they hold up this persona that you think you need to captivate you, but it’s fake and they can’t keep that going. Like if brag about money, they’re possibly broke... or a player.

I have a boyfriend of 6mo now, but previously got separated and was single/separated/divorced for a few years before that so I had to experience dating in today’s world, it notably sucks. I think it goes without saying that sex matters, but it doesn’t make a man love you or not love you. I feel like if he’s interested in you then it probably wouldn’t matter if you do it on the 3rd or 30th date. Also, some men don’t understand the damage they do by leading women on just to get what they want.... at least not until it’s done back to them. It’s pathetic and I feel for you.

Maybe I’m wrong about things, but I thought I would share some thoughts while over here procrastinating on work. I hope you end up back on here describing how things completely turned around and you met someone great after feeling this way. Best of luck.

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