Hey man I feel your pain. But sorry to tell you but it is your own fault. I did the same thing, was nice to a girl, liked her alot, listened to her, payed attention to her, cared about her, but I was to big of a pussy to do anything about it. You talked on snapchat for a couple weeks i was hanging out in person for months. Next thing you know she's fucking my cousin and complaining to me about his coke habit. Well what did you fucking expect when you hooked up with a known coke head.
Well here I am now, drunk in bed with my wife beside me, after some great sex. Kids are fast asleep in their room. Life worked out for me.
Take a deep breath bud and start moving on. It's tough and it hurts, but it's a good lesson that we all need to learn, you got a soft side and women love that, but they don't want to fuck it.
I used to think how dumb she was for not seeing I was into her and why wasn't she into me, why wouldn't she give me a sign, make a move, fucking anything. But it's not how women work. They will go so far but it's all up to you to make that first move, put yourself out there, get rejected, get accepted, it's just nature.
It's hard to say that she led you on, she showed interest and instead of going in for the kill you laid back, you could almost say you led her on that she could think of you as a friend. I don't want to be mean but I don't want you to be like me and spend to years thinking it was her, it will just happen for me someday, you gotta put yourself out there and get demolished. Make it happen. It's the only way.
It's really hard to put into words but I do seriously know how you feel. You should start to distance yourself from her IMO, if you don't you will continue to dwell on her, it will keep you from seeing the other great women out there. The odds of getting out of the spot you're in and making things happen with her aren't good at all.
In the end don't feel bad about it. Tons of men have done the same before you and many more will do it after. What you feel now is real and it's okay. Just remember it's not the end of the road just a bump in it. Stick in there and remember the next time when you're talking to a girl and the thought crossed your mind that you actually like her, you better fucking ask her out on a date. Worst case scenario she says no and you saved yourself a ton of time and hear break, but just maybe she might actually say yes.
I will add a disclaimer to all this horrible advice: I am horrible with women, pretty drunk, and just had great sex.
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