Hi, LetsAllstayCalm!

I just created a throwaway to try to help you (I'm trans myself). However, I just read TX4444's post and I'm now kinda confused... (she linked to a severely transphobic post of yours)

I'll still try to answer you.

First thing is, did you talk to her directly? Also, did you talk to (non-transphobic!) women in the locker room who confirm that there is a problem?

Please don't forget that it is really common (even for straight and cis girls) to 'check out' the other girls and compare their body to yours. Probably it's just the first time you noticed because you gave her extra attention (for being trans)?

I try my best to not check out other women body's at locker rooms because I know that if they knew that I'm trans and lesbian, they'd be extremely uncomfortable. However, I do realize that everyone else does it and my (straigt and cis) co-worker even asked my why I'm so focused on not watching at anybody else's body.

Keep in mind that trans women are very, very self-conscious about their body, which of course increases their wish to compare their body to others. (They hope to see that they're not so different)

However, if she really peeks at other women body's out of sexual pleasure, this is really, really unacceptable. What would you want to be done if there was a cis girl doing this? Trying to get her out of the locker room usually won't work, because there is no alternative.

I'd like to repeat my question: Did to talk to her about it? If she's checking out other women's bodies (but to an extend its uncomfortable for them), she'll definitely stop if you'll ask her to. There are those really stupid people who are like "We shouldn't accept trans women in locker rooms/toilets because they'll take sexual pleasure from it", and she'll do her best to not give them a point.

However, what if she's really doing it out of sexual pleasure? After reading the post about this girl stealing her sister's name on TwoX, I was once again reminded that there are some really... awkward people in this world. You have a right to change your clothes in a locker room without being made this uncomfortable and I'm sure many people will support this view. Maybe you could talk to other women that are already known to the management as open-minded and non-transphobic? If they support your view, maybe something can be done about it.