"I Was Raped...Does Anyone Care?" - a recollection of a man dealing with society's position on rape as both a male and the victim

It really sucks talking about this but I'd like to get this off my chest and tell my story as well. Back when I was in college a girl I was friends with tried raping me. She had a lot of interest in me at a really weird time in my life. I was a young college student from a small town. Total virgin, still trying to figure out who I was. I wasn't a sexual person at all. I was really confused about my sexuality. I thought I was straight and hung out with this chick very innocently. like a dummy I didn't think much about it. At the same time I fell in "love" with my best guy friend. I was so mixed up in the head. I became suicidal and then forced myself to see a shrink. I ended up coming out to a few safe people, but it was still very scary for me. Long story short. I went to a common friends party that night and got trashed. this girl was there and we left at the same time. So we ended up walking the same way. When I got to my place she told me "walk me the rest of the way!" Drunk me kept walking. Mid way through campus I told her I was headed back. She said "no your walking me home." I reluctantly went along. When we got back to here place I tried leaving and she made me come in. Then she threw me on her bed, locked the door, jumped on top of me (i was laying on my back and so drunk I couldn't even try to sit up) and pinned my arms back. She said "if I have to rape you I will." I panicked. It took me a bit but I struggled enough to force her off me (she was using all of her body weight) and went for the door. I was able to unlock it and as I got out she told me "you'll regret this." when I got into her front yard i was so upset I was in tears and puked up my guts. Then I got on my phone and called one of my friends. it went straight to voice mail. But it wouldn't have mattered anyways because the next day my friends just laughed when I told them what happened. Only one of them knew I was barely coming out of the closet, but they acted like I should have been happy that happened to me. besides being totally violated, what scared me the most was those last words. "You'll regret this." A couple days later I ran into my attacker and had to pretend nothing happened. It still haunts me today.

Ps. Typing on my cell and totally drunk or I wouldn't have shared this. Excuse the typos.

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