I rarely fall in love, and when I do, it’s all consuming and I lose my charisma

I would simply try being honest with the other person. Tell them that you really like them and are excited about seeing where things lead, but that historically when you really like someone you tend to get more nervous and inside your head which can make you more awkward, which you're trying to avoid.

This will accomplish three things. First, it will demonstrate a high level of vulnerability and honesty which most people find attractive, and those who don't should probably be avoided anyway. Second, it will internally take the pressure off yourself by simply putting it out there to the other person. And third, if they are empathetic and likewise very interested in you this should be an opportunity to bond and connect further, with them hopefully providing reassurance that you can be yourself with them.

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