I'm in LDR so we stay at each other houses every weekend and on holidays for a longer time (sometimes 3 months or so). I never clean my bfs house or cook because I don't really feel comfortable doing whatever I want in HIS house, I fear that I will do something he doesn't like or missplace things (not to mention I am a horrible chef).

However, if he ever ask me to help around I would definetly agree. But there is a possibility to missunderstand the situation because of the way he question was ask. If I felt like he insisted, in a way it would make me feel like a housewife and that is the worst. I want to do my things, I want to relax after studying. I don't want to spend my days cleaning for 3 hours and cooking for 2 hours. I am not married to him and I don't want to feel used. Please don't take me wrong on this, but it seriously makes women feel shitty. Maybe not all of us, but most. ”Helping” to clean and to cook is not something horrible to ask for. It's ok to do so few times a week tho. So there is a possibility that she missunderstood you and felt like you wanted to use her. A huge (—) if she is not used to do stuff like that, that adds on the pressure.

I kind of feel bad for both of you. For you, because your gf didn't meet the expectations and for her, because she has an unloving bf. I would understand you if she was a friend, I would be pissed if I worked and she did nothing to help me out. But if my bf needed a place to stay, I wouldn't get mad at him for such a stupid thing, I'd just tell him how I feel and I bet he'd come around. I bet she felt horribly realizing that even her bf, probably the closest person, turned against her.

Break up with her, because you definetly don't feel anything for her.