Was it reasonable to call my recent hookup buddy out for leaving me high and dry?

Eh. I think that it’s a truly selfless thing when you want to make another person feel good while not really getting anything out of it. It’s an act of love or at least deep sympathy and care. And that’s why I wouldn’t expect a random dude to spend 15-30 minutes going down on me and trying to make me orgasm after he had already finished. In my opinion, most of the time casual sex is very primitive and low effort. That’s why it’s rarely beneficial for women. Because not many women can orgasm effortlessly. So when a woman hooks up with a random dude, she should understand that her orgasm is pretty much her own problem. Like, if it happens - great. But if it doesn’t happen during sex then it’s pretty naive to expect a random dude who doesn’t love you to spend extra energy and time on getting you off. Find yourself a boyfriend who will care about you and love you, then he would want to make you have an orgasm because your happiness is his priority. Or buy a vibrator and make yourself orgasm while your useless fuck buddy reads news on his phone. Just don’t expect that much from random dudes who are not in love with you. I’m definitely not going to give a long hot blowjob to some random tinder dude just because he failed to finish during sex cause he can’t cum while wearing a condom. He is very welcome to jerk off and make himself happy but I don’t feel like it’s my obligation to make him cum. Like, okay if I really really like him - maybe I’ll do it for him, but he sure as hell should not think that I owe him a blowjob or a handjob. It’s just a casual hook up, darling. Take care of your own needs.

I’d laugh really fucking hard if a guy texted me after a hookup: “listen, lady, I don’t appreciate the fact that you disrespectfully went to sleep instead of sucking on my dick for 15 minutes because I feel that I deserve that... because of the reason! So I decided to finish our little affair because I’m very unsatisfied, unhappy and bitter! Goodbye now!”

/r/dating Thread