I have enough matches but my life/job isn't really fantastic so most of them fail in the chat stage once I tell I work a menial job below my potential. Recently had 4 dates with a girl, first time in years. Kissing/cuddles and all. Thought it was getting serious. But then the last date was awkward and she went quiet the next few days, then called me saying that although she liked the time with me, she's missing something. It sent me into a big depression. It dawned on me I had been watching porn the day before, because I was nervous that there would be sex and my libido/dick felt numb. I got too touchy, wasn't cool and confident. So sort of self sabotage. I too deleted my dating apps afterwards and was an emotional tired mess. I realised there's no point in dating when I don't have myself in order. Just setting myself up for heartbreak. Gotta hit that gym, abstain from pmo and make a plan to improve my life the coming months. Tinder/bumble etc. is fine for dating, but you gotta have yourself in order. That goes for dating in general.