Reddit, have you ever ruined someone's life? If so, how did you do it?

I'm not sure if this qualifies as ruining someone's life. It all started around two years ago. I'm in high school and this was in the summer. There was a guy who worked as a lifeguard at the pool. A friend of mine worked at the pool with him. She didn't like working with him so she came to me and said she wanted to get him fired. I went to his boss and said he groped me. My friend wasn't there, but she said she saw him grope me. He was fired.

Summer ended and the next schoolyear begins. This guy was in some of my classes. He was just such a clown and he was annoying me. I didn't like to hear him talk. In October of 2017, I decided to do something about it. I went around the school and basically told everyone that he was a sexual predator and a creep. I was called to the guidance counselor's office. Apparently, the school has to report that stuff. So I told the counselor what happened, and then I was talking to an investigator. I decided to roll with it and say that this guy sexually assaulted me by the pool. I guess that friend of mine who worked at the pool was questioned about it and backed me up.

This guy was arrested. I didn't see it happen. Apparently he agreed to some kind of deal where he didn't plead guilty but had to stay out of trouble for 6 months. I think he was basically on probation. Anyways, I guess life at school became quite...unpleasant for him. He was something of a bully target to begin with. A few months later, the thought occurred. What if I falsely accused him again?

I thought it would be suspicious if I did it again, so I went to a friend of mine and had her do it. She invited him over to her house for a party. Then a few days later she went to the guidance counselor and said he broke into her house, hit her, and sexually assaulted her. We had two other friends corroborate that accusation. Some time later, he was put in shackles and taken out of school. I didn't see him for a long time.

I guess he must have been convicted. He spent 9 days in juvie and then he was on house arrest with an ankle monitor. Apparently he was traumatized by everything he had experienced and required medical attention. We live in a very small town, so his reputation was destroyed. I think that if he wanted to, he could have come back to school. But the bullying got really bad for him and he was probably afraid we would falsely accuse him again. So he was homeschooled.

Well, the whole thing kind of unraveled. One of the girls admitted that they lied, and then the others admitted that they lied. The charges against him were dropped. I think his criminal record was expunged. I was a minor at the time, so I couldn't be sued, but his parents are suing my parents and the parents of the other girls. That story made the local news, so everyone knows that he's innocent now.

Well, he's going to school again and I hear he's doing better now. I don't know too much about this, but I guess we permanently tarnished his academic record. That might affect what colleges he's able to get into. Like I said, he's doing better, but how is this guy going to be around women? Is he going to be able to work with women, date, get married, etc? That's why I said I'm not sure if I ruined his life or not.

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