it's a total shit cycle man. Being both an addict, and learning about it in my medical training--it's given me the optics to understand both sides. The sad truth is, that there is no way to demonize on specific person, or even substance. The most succinct explanation of addiction that I have found was actually a kurzgesagt video on addiction. It basically posits that addiction is secondary to a lack of connection. This by and large is the model by which most modern-day cognitive behavioral therapies, and addiction recovery systems work. I'll share the link below. It really helped my own dad--with whom I have both a generational and cultural gap with, understand.