Anytime. Just remember, I don't know if you're the person giving birth, but that is an exhausting process and often you'll be missing out on a lot of sleep while your body and your mind is trying to heal and accept a whole new dynamic.

A constant influx of (well - meaning) visitors can really get on a person's nerves very quickly. Be gracious but know how to say 'NO.' This is your time. Be selfish, and enjoy it. Once you guys have a vague routine in place, and you're feeling up to it, schedule something but be clear that 'cut off time' is whenever. Just a tip, if you're the husband, suprise your wife and get a cleaning service the day before. Your house will likely not be in pristine condition, and women (and men!) worry about that stuff when people come over. That's stress/guilt she doesn't need. There's always one or more people in the family who'll comment however subtly that 'the house is a mess'. Or try to start cleaning themselves. This can be very guilt inducing to a woman. And it shouldn't be. Hire a cleaning service, ask your partner to write a list of what they want done around the house, and you add what you want done. Problem solved. Maids/cleaners are fantastic, and they're there for a reason. Make use of them. And don't feel at all guilty. If a friend/relative asks what you need, maybe ask for that. A nice clean house makes everything easier. Everything. You feel really good about your home, and you get to enjoy without worrying about the laundry or the sink full of dishes. Just thinking about it now, I'm getting that for every couple I know who breeds, that's genius. Best gift ever. :) "I love you, been thinking about you. I'm going to give you guys a couple of months to settle in, but I'd like to do you a solid and take off some of the household chores for you. It's on me. Just give me a time when it's convenient." Oh My God, best idea ever.