Redditor’s who gave your S.O a second chance after they cheated, why did you forgive them and have you learned to fully trust them again? How is your relationship now?

I did. I had broken up with him, after two and half years together. It was really hard to finally do that. I had very low self esteem but i realized id rather be alone than with someone who would betray me like that. when I broke up with him i said a lot of mean things that i meant and still do. At first he just listened to me, he packed up all his shit and then just started bawling. I had seen him cry on a few rare occasions. He said he didn't know why he did those things, he said i was his best friend and that he loved me. He swore if i let him stay he would never do it again and that i would be his first priority. Before me his longest relationship was like four months.. I guess his crying got to me. I let him back in my head. We'll be together for four years in January...He's changed immensely. Hes Definitely not the same person who betrayed me but part of me never stayed the same. I get really paranoid at times, i have no reason to suspect he's doing that shit again but the paranoia is always quietly lurking. I really don't think he is but my trust in him has never been the same. For the most part he understands my paranoia but on a bad day i wish i could just leave him and start something new with someone else just because it makes me sad that some of our past is tainted, but we rarely have bad days. I love him a lot and he's changed so much for me. Forgiving and trusting is really hard but the relationship and life we have together is just too sweet to not try at it. I just pray it doesn't bite me in the ass.

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