3. Redditors who gave an unfaithful spouse a second chance, what's your story and h...

Redditors who gave an unfaithful spouse a second chance, what's your story and how did that turn out?

I'm sorry I'm baked and felt like writing...

Second chances are not worth it. Ever.

Whether you have been together for 12 years or a single one, if that person did not have the open-mindedness and respect to express their desire to ''explore'' (maybe even include you in the process, do they really know for certain if deep down you are not attracted to such experiences?) they are a waste of your time, energy, love and care.

I have been faced twice with cases of betrayal and I was never mad about the actual cheating or concerned with who, when, where, but only why...Why, and also with the fact that they were dishonest about their intentions in the first place. I never blamed myself, cheating comes from within the cheater, not the cheatee. If the cheater doesn't have enough balls to confront their SO about how they feel, then they don't want to be involved with anyone in the first place because the basis of any human relation is communication. We cannot (unfortunately) read each other's minds (yet).

If I compare both cheatings, the first one caused much more damage than the second. I blame the difficult healing process on the second chance I gave the guy who first introduced me to being a cheatee. That chance I gave him? It went nowhere and ended up the same way as the first try. The second cheating was much more drastic when it came to my decision. I couldn't prove physical cheating, but the e-mails, texts, Kik Messages and Craigslist ads to have sex with local trannies (even offering them money to sleep with them) wounded me deep enough to make me pack my shit and leave for good without looking back. I blocked, deleted and ignored for 2 months, kicking my ass not to contact him out of loneliness, biting my fingers and tongue as hard as I could at even the thought of reconciliation!

It was worth it. I am already healed now, after 4 months, and have many great plans ahead. It took time to refocus on myself, but I don't believe in second chances anymore. I don't believe on missing out or ''maybe he was my soulmate and I can never find anyone better''.

There are billions of people on this earth, and I don't believe in giving the power to one of them to hurt me more than once. You get one chance, and if you blow it, you're done and I will make sure that you were a great life lesson to me.

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