Redditors who were adopted, what is something that more people should know about adoption?

Hi! I’d hope people would want to understand that adopted folks often work through issues or confront questions (from themselves or others) that many other groups of people do not. That’s a vague claim. But specifically, there aren’t things like specific regions or color of skin or culture that connect adopted folks. You could say a specific area has a high prevalence of X culture, sure. But adopted folks don’t have a shared physical or cultural connector that would foster camaraderie or communication (maybe a little different now with the internet, since I was a kid in the late-90’s). Also, you feel a bit weird socializing with people of your biological race. It also makes dating real weird sometimes.

Some fun examples of this are:

Professor: calls out often Caucasian last name for attendance) Adoptee: Here. Professor: ...wait. (squinting) Are you sure? Adoptee: Oh. No. Sorry! You’re right, I’ve just been wrong for the last 22 years. Dang! Now I gotta get this driver’s license changed... But thanks for pointing that out. Wouldn’t want my diploma to be for someone else!

Or.

New Acquaintance: Hey! What’s your name? I’ll add you on Facebook. Adoptee: (says name) New Acquaintance: (butchers common last name trying to make it sound ethnic) Adoptee: ...sure. (basks in schadenfreude)

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