Redditors whose marriage lasted less than a year, what went wrong?

We had an arranged marriage, which was pretty normal in our community. I didn't mind much because I was speaking to him for two years before the wedding. He was the perfect guy, in every single way. I didn't know that was supposed to be a warning.

A few months before the wedding, we got an anonymous text message sent to my dads phone. It said that we don't know this man and he's not what he appears. We had a lot of enemies at that time, so we all thought it was a prank to make us cancel the wedding for no reason.

After the wedding, he would avoid spending time with me at all costs. Even at night. For someone who's never had sex, you'd think the guy would be in bed all day with his bride. Nope. So I started feeling suspicious.

Anyway, we found out a few things about him (some from hints that he's been giving us, but we were too blind to notice) that made us realize he was in the closet. If anyone found out, it could get him killed where we were from. Me, being born in America and open minded about those things, understood. We never explicitly accused him of being gay nor did he ever admit it. We implied it by saying that he shouldn't ruin another young girl's life and he agreed. We took that as all the confirmation we needed.

His mom tried to make an intervention. I told her in no uncertain terms that her son was not attracted to me. Instead of saying maybe he's gay, I told her that he probably didn't want an American wife and you pushed him into the marriage.

I had a lot of anger towards him. Why say he loves me if he couldn't? Why spend so much money for a wedding (and we had a big one)? Why make me travel with my big ass family for it? At the same time, I was extremely sympathetic even though I wish I wasn't. He wasted three years of my life that I'll never get back. His "perfection" came from the fact that he was compensating his sexual orientation by creating himself as the perfect male by reputation. No one had a single bad thing to say about him, especially since he was the eldest son of a very powerful family where I'm from. Everyone was blind to it until I got married. So we got divorced within six months. I went back to America and got myself checked.

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