Redditors whose parents divorced-- do you feel like you were better or worse off after their split?

it's hit or miss.

It was good at the time because it was amicable and they obviously weren't in love anymore, not to mention that me and my sister were in high school and saw it coming from a mile away.

Then things slowly started to get worse. I was made to live with my mom because she moved closer to school and only saw my dad on the weekends because he worked super early in the morning and I couldn't be trusted to get to the bus on time. During that time, my mother decided that my sister was the favourite child and was very emotionally and psycologically abusive to me and treated my sister as if she was some sort of queen. She would do things like buy me clothes that were too small in order to "encourage me to lose weight", belittle my accomplishments to the point where I stopped trying in school then belittle me because my grades were shit, refuse to acknowledge the fact that I had all the signs and symptoms of clinical depression and wouldn't take me to a doctor to get tested until I told her I was suicidal and got me into therapy and then blasted me for missing school to see the therapist that she forced me to go to, among other things that I am trying to supress.

When my dad decided to sell the house and moved close to school I instantly decided to live with him because he treated me like how I wanted to be treated. My sister decided to become a carbon copy of my mother and stayed with her. My mother said she loved me but it was obvious she was starting to resent me for picking my father over her, thus somehow found a loophole to make him pay child support for me when I wasn't living with her and my ID said I was living with dad. It became very hard on my dad financially so we gave up the apartment that we were living in and moved into my dad's friends basement (Dad and that friend ended up falling in love and now shes my step mother that I honestly love more than my birth mother) and my mom moved across the province with her new husband with my sister in tow.

It's been 8 years since they got divorced and my mother thinks that she has some sort of control of my life (I'm 23, live on my own and try to talk to her as little as possible because of how she treated me) and is pressuring me to go to school for courses that I have zero interest in taking and is an active participant in ruining everything good in my life.

TL;DR: better in the sense that my dad is awesome, worse in the sense that my mom wants to control me but has no interest in being a mother anymore.

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