My wife is bi. She never did anything about before we were married. Her hardcore Catholic upbringing made her feel ashamed of it.

We talked about it a lot. I told her I don't want to have sex with anybody else, so no threesomes or foursomes but she was free to date if she wanted to.

She did go on some dates. It was mostly women she met through a shared NSFW account we had on here. None of the dates went anywhere.

Eventually the wife in a couple we're close friends with turned out to be in the same boat. They had chemistry and are attracted to one another. We all talked a lot and agreed that we're all cool with them dating.

It sounds weird but the other woman being a close friend makes it less weird. I trust her and know she cares about me. Knowing she is in a stable happy marriage also makes it easier not to be jealous.

Basically the other husband and I will hang out together with our kids while they have a date night. I don't ask many questions. The idea of her with another woman is hot. Picturing her with our friend feels weird.

She seems happier. It hasn't really changed our sex lives or anything though. She has offered me a cheat pass if I want one. I haven't really tried to meet anyone though.

The wives have floated the idea of all four of us spending a night together to see what happens. The other husband and I aren't really into it.

The only part that is hard is that she's said "love you" to the other woman in front of me. I've asked her not to say that to her when I'm around anymore. It's been going on for almost two years so I knew they were pretty serious. Hearing my wife say that out loud to her still stung.