This is one of the most valuable lessons I’ve ever learned, and I’m so glad thankful for that.

I went on a date earlier this year with a guy I’d met on a ‘serious’ dating app. We talked non-stop via text and calls for days and the vibe was awesome.

We met for a coffee date and a walk in my neighborhood and by the end, I decided I’d like to see him again... until I didn’t hear from him after the date, even after I’d texted the obligatory ‘I had a great time’ message... two days go by and I knew he wasn’t interested but was still holding onto that god awful sliver of hope, when the overly long (but appreciated) text came through, telling me he had a good time meeting me and I was a great girl but he simply wasn’t interested. I don’t even think I read the message all the way.

My point is, I licked my wounds for a few days and then I realized... I’m not going to be everyone’a cup of tea. Not everyone is going to like me. And that’s not my fault - hell, that’s not even their fault. That’s just life. And I’ll save myself a lot of trouble and heartache if I get comfortable with that NOW, especially being single.

Now when I go out with someone, if we never talk again I don’t mind. I still had fun doing whatever we did, meeting someone new, putting myself out there. And that’s an even better part of life that’s definitely worth the risk :)